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Post by Kashathediva on Thu Jun 18, 2015 9:57 am

I was glad to see Elan tarring himself with his own paintbrush. It can't be easy leading all those past cast to slaughter.


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Post by AllAboutLove on Fri Aug 14, 2015 1:16 pm

I thought to post Elan's recent blog/tumblr post because it really does have some great nuggets of wisdom, especially concerning asking questions of oneself...

A lot of people ask me “are you still sober?”

It’s actually a really fair question. Most people don’t do anything for very long. And I think what they think when they’re asking the question is “Obviously your problem is something you can control, so obviously it’s not a problem anymore.”

To some people who have given up drinking or drugs, that may seem like a silly point to make. But, to me, it makes perfect sense:

That’s actually what I struggle with most these days. The thrill of quitting is gone. The excitement of “doing it by not doing it” is out the window. I hit my week, and I hit my month, and a hit my year, and now there’s just this endless looming forever staring back at me.

It’s hard to remember why you quit sometimes. And it feels ridiculous to be so dogmatic. Am I really worried that a glass of wine is going to change me back into who I used to be? Of course not. Do I think I can control myself? I do.

But that’s not the point for me. At least not now.

I keep alcohol in my house, always. My friends drink here. I go to bars. I don’t want to hide. I want to be in the world and I want to change myself and not pretend the world is different from what it is. I don’t want to pretend alcohol is bad. Alcohol is fine. In fact, I think it’s pretty great. I’m just really, really good at drinking it, which, in turn, is bad.

Could I have a glass of wine right now? Of course.

Would I be okay? I think so.

But again, those aren’t the question I ask myself. The question I ask myself is “do I need to?”

Am I better off in any way? Does it help me? Does it help others? Will I improve? The answer, at least for me, is pretty clearly no.

I think it’s fair to guess that most people reading this aren’t sober. Most people have a pretty health relationship with alcohol, at least as far as I can tell. But that doesn’t mean that this thought process doesn’t apply. In fact, since I’ve gotten sober, I’ve been applying this template to as many things as I can.

Do I want to do something?

Would I be ok?

Would I enjoy it?

Almost always, the answer to these questions is YES.

But then when I ask myself “Do I need this?” the answer is usually PROBABLY NOT.

I haven’t had a drink in 430 days. It’s boring sometimes. It’s boring most of the time. But, being dead would (probably) have been even more boring. And now I have to learn new ways to interest myself. All the time. Every day.

When people ask me if quitting drinking gets easier, I try to be honest and tell them that it doesn’t get easier. At least not for me. But everything else becomes more interesting, more challenging, more frustrating, but then in certain moments, unbelievably beautiful.

I love being there for every minute of my life, even when I don’t want to be.
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Post by Norcalgal on Fri Aug 14, 2015 1:19 pm

Elan is such an interesting person. I wonder if alcohol helped him feel more 'normal' and accepted. I actually like him more when he's honest such as in this article. You rock, Elan!

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Post by Kashathediva on Fri Aug 14, 2015 1:34 pm

what a fine example of living a sober life. :Nod: so happy for him.


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Post by GuardianAngel on Fri Aug 14, 2015 1:38 pm

I'm surprised every time I read his updates. He has a wonderful way of getting his point across, and says things that I never thought of. He is so different on twitter.

It's wonderful to read where he's been and how he's coping. I'm sure he is a strength to many. yes


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Post by bluwavz on Wed Sep 16, 2015 8:49 pm

elan gale ‏@theyearofelan 23m23 minutes ago
elan gale retweeted Note to Self
So I did a very interesting podcast with @WNYC called Note To Self and if you want to listen to it click the link
   
Note to Self ‏@NoteToSelf 44m44 minutes ago
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Post by Nonina430 on Tue Oct 27, 2015 5:14 pm

Happy Birthday Elan. Precious, Precious Man.
  
 hbbanner To think some contestants are older than he, 32 PURE GENIUS

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Post by rhondam on Tue Oct 27, 2015 5:34 pm

:Happy Birthday Elan! 

What a wonderful thing you are doing again this year by asking for donations instead of birthday gifts to Next Door Solutions to help those that find themselves victims of domestic violence. And so very generous and like you to match those contributions and also great and wonderful that your friend is also matching!! Amazing human being you are! I feel honoured to have your likeness as my avi!! 
Iloveyou!rockheartglassesblowkisssweet kiss


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Post by GuardianAngel on Sun Nov 15, 2015 10:20 pm

And we have another book! I bet this would be hilarious.


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Post by rhondam on Thu Dec 17, 2015 1:05 pm

18 Months sobriety for Elan. He says he is an addict and it helped him feel feelings more fully. This is the first time I've heard of this. Am I mistaken, do most people not become addicted to escape or hide from uncomfortable or feelings that seem too difficult to manage? Well anyway, congratulations to him for sticking with it.
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Post by GuardianAngel on Thu Dec 17, 2015 1:10 pm

Thanks rhondam. There are several of his blogs in this thread talking about his struggles.

I enjoy reading them, his SM activity not so much. It's remarkable what he has gone through, and what he continues to go through. I was amazed when I came across the first one. You never know what challenges people are going through.

ETA: He made a liar out of me. Love this!


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Before you judge me try walking a mile in my shoes so you can see how little I care and how good it feels to be a mile away from you


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