The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Episode 3 - Discussion - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

nothatgirl wrote:She seemed fine to me. She's scared of heights, so that's why she wasn't jumping up and down. Neither was Lauren, for the record, when she got the picture and no one accused her of "not making the most of her time".

Kashathediva wrote:I don't see either attitude as being wrong.
One POV is from a woman who apparently is ghastly afraid of heights. It's well known the producers pick those kind of dates on purpose for potentiating fears. Personally, I don't know how I would react if faced with doing something I was horribly afraid of. I would probably refuse.
The other POV is from someone who apparently values time with Ben very much. Maybe that person is not afraid of heights and so that there is nothing to waiver over.
Each POV is valid coming from each, IMO.

AllAboutLove wrote:

nothatgirl wrote:She seemed fine to me. She's scared of heights, so that's why she wasn't jumping up and down. Neither was Lauren, for the record, when she got the picture and no one accused her of "not making the most of her time".

Exactly. Plus in that clip with Lauren she tells Ben to take her back to the mansion and drop her off and he said no.
Lauren was joking then and Ben got it. Good grief if the other girls had accused Lauren of not wanting to be with Ben and not making the most of her time.  

I thought it was a catty thing to say by Caila and not kindness to say about Jubilee who expressed their fear of heights and use humor to try to deal with it like many normal people do.  :Nod: She could have put herself in Jubilee's shoes and expressed how she did it. And it's not like Jubilee didn't go or wasted her time on her date. She did go... she just expressed her fear.

eversotrue wrote:Well I don't think its fair to blame it all on Caila either, as it looks like Leah, Jami, and a couple of the others were mad too.

eversotrue wrote:Well I don't think its fair to blame it all on Caila either, as it looks like Leah, Jami, and a couple of the others were mad too.

nothatgirl wrote:

eversotrue wrote:Well I don't think its fair to blame it all on Caila either, as it looks like Leah, Jami, and a couple of the others were mad too.

Oh, i know! I did say "these girls" in my original post. They were all being ridiculous. Especially whoever said "that was like offensive to hear"  I just pointed out Caila because I was starting to like her and then she gave that ITM. I never really had any opinions towards the other girls.

nothatgirl wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:

nothatgirl wrote:She seemed fine to me. She's scared of heights, so that's why she wasn't jumping up and down. Neither was Lauren, for the record, when she got the picture and no one accused her of "not making the most of her time".

Exactly. Plus in that clip with Lauren she tells Ben to take her back to the mansion and drop her off and he said no.
Lauren was joking then and Ben got it. Good grief if the other girls had accused Lauren of not wanting to be with Ben and not making the most of her time.  

I thought it was a catty thing to say by Caila and not kindness to say about Jubilee who expressed their fear of heights and use humor to try to deal with it like many normal people do.  :Nod: She could have put herself in Jubilee's shoes and expressed how she did it. And it's not like Jubilee didn't go or wasted her time on her date. She did go... she just expressed her fear.

Exactly. And, the fact that she went despite being terrified just shows how much she did like Ben and wanted to spend time with him. My biggest fear is being stuck in a room with rats and if someone told me I had to do that to go on a date with Ben, I'd be outta there in a split second.

Whenever any of these contestants get so caught up in the "bubble" that they forget to have normal human emotions, like empathy, I just can't deal with them.