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Bachelor 19 - Becca Tilly #3

nutty1 wrote:Here is my biggest question about Becca…..would a 25 year old never been in love virgin who lives in CA really want to marry a 33 yr old who wants kids sooner than later and move to the middle of nowhere??

If I were a huge Becca fan, I wouldn't even want her to end up as the F1.

Much like last season where I did not like Andi much at all, if she made Nick happy and chose him, then I would be happy to support that.

As for the living in CA part, she moved to be with her sister, then stayed, I believe Dez Duron, who is majorly hot I liked him a lot on the Voice was there too. I went to Texas for undergrad and decided to stay, it fit and was right at the time. I find her living in CA not different from Whitney who has chosen very large towns to live in would want to move to rural Iowa, if you love the person you do it.

Pia1 wrote:
nutty1 wrote:I think the reason Becca is fine is because she has now been out of the bubble for quite a while and realizes she never truly loved Chris, nor wanted to move to Arlington.
She will find a great guy, who is perfect for her.

Based on what we were shown I don't think she was ever in the bubble. She just seemed realistic and level headed.

Chrisbecca wrote:Being nosey, I looked up Beccas Pinterest. She liked a quote that said, "It is better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less".

She "liked" that a year ago. What we are seeing on tv I think is she being her true self.

Becca is criticized because she didn't want to play TPTB's game. I find that refreshing, it makes me happy to see someone being true to themselves and not being manipulated to act faster than they want. Integrity is lacking more and more in this series, so criticizing someone for having it is hilarious to me.

Ladybug82 wrote:I think Becca went on the show for the same reasons as many others, the adventure of it...both travel and the idea of getting to know the lead and possibly getting a relationship out of it. Maybe she wanted to shake things up and do something outside of her comfort zone?

I don't see her being a virgin, going on the show or being slower paced and taking a realistic approach to all of this, instead of the in the bubble immediate lust and love a problem and actually find it somewhat refreshing. And I tend to believe it more than being convinced your in love with the lead the minute the limo door opens and so all in that I'm not sure you give yourself time to really know the person and evaluate if he's right for you or if the relationship will be right for you. But that's what makes the board interesting and the world go round...that we don't all see things the same way and are allowed to share our differing opinions.

Love, love, love this post.

Litta123 wrote:
julychild wrote:
soccermom333 wrote:Did anyone else see what looks to be Chris and Becca fighting on their LCD??!! I can't wait for screen caps. ;)

Couples argue and this is by no means a deal breaker, but just curious what they were arguing about?? I forgot to mention I believe Chris and Becc's storyline is very similar to Jillian's and Ed's. (Of course Ed was no where near being a virgin!) Hehe I am talking story line, story board.

That scene from the preview: Chris saying to Becca "What do you want?" (a la Noah to Allie), plus the Ferris wheel ride, to the canoe in the bayou, to Chris saying "do you want to get in the water?" Straight out of The Notebook!

It's all about first love, people!

I love this...great observation, jc!

Btw, I'm working on the caps. So much slicing and dicing in this past episode. I noticed last night that for one of Chris's PIs that was shown during Whitney's date, he had on his shirt for Becca's date. I don't recall his exact quote, but I remember he used the word "love" in it...not that he was in love, but maybe falling...or something he loved about her...I don't recall exactly. But I would bet because of the outfit, it was really a statement about Becca.

On a completely different note, it's actually refreshing to see Chris and Becca fight a little. It's more like real life...nobody's just showing his/her good side in order to end up with one another. Conflict is normal, obviously. It's about navigating to the other side and staying on the same team while you do. Am I remembering correctly? Hasn't Chris alluded to compromise post filming?

Okay, lunch break over...back to capping.

I like that we see these two developing a real relationship and having real conversations. It is refreshing to me.

albean99 wrote:It's not that being a virgin is a bad thing at all but it's not something you keep from someone you're supposed to be falling for imo. She hid a pretty important part of who she is until the last possible moment. On the other side of it, if it's not a big deal why wouldn't she have felt comfortable telling him when there was a chance he'd be meeting her family? I got the feeling she was nervous about his reaction and therefore put it off as long as she could. A little sign of immaturity? Maybe.

I have heard all season everytime Chris did something questionable that it was TPTB making him or encouraging him to do it. I can believe that TPTB encouraged her to wait. And why should she have to tell him until it came up on an intimacy level?

Maggenzm wrote:
albean99 wrote:It's not that being a virgin is a bad thing at all but it's not something you keep from someone you're supposed to be falling for imo. She hid a pretty important part of who she is until the last possible moment. On the other side of it, if it's not a big deal why wouldn't she have felt comfortable telling him when there was a chance he'd be meeting her family? I got the feeling she was nervous about his reaction and therefore put it off as long as she could. A little sign of immaturity? Maybe.

Not at all, she is very mature. Why tell him unless you know you are going to stay? it is not a disease, and I don't think it matters when he knew.
Heck, he doesn't need to keep her now, he could still send her home as F3 or ever F2, but he knew in his gut, in his soul, he just can't let Becca go, she is the one he wants

I really find people vilifying someone chose to save their virginity for their husband ridiculous. To me it is an admirable thing to do.

Hopefully wrote:I think she should be with Russal Willson from the Seattle S. he is just a hottie IMO and he has a lot of the same values .. Now that's eye candy yum. I hope that if she is the F1 she walks she's way to good for him. I herd Wilson's in L A tooooo...

He is married I believe, has been since he played in college.

mindless wrote:I love this tweet from her ex:

@DezDuron

Girls tellin @beccatilley5 shes wrong to wait this long to say shes a virgin should start tellin guys your kill count on date 1 #Hypocrites

Ash2214 wrote:^ I liked it too. He even took it further by tweeting these as well:

Dez Duron @DezDuron
Same girls judging her for being a virgin are the same girls posting relentlessly against sl** shaming #DoubleStandard #ChoicesAreChoices

Dez Duron @DezDuron
This is virginity! Not an STD! Girls always saying it shouldn't matter to a guy how many people a girls been with...unless she's a virgin?!

Not only is he super, super attractive but Dez seems really protective, sweet and has a great head on his shoulders.

Love Dez standing up for Becca.

bleuberry wrote:Do you guys see Chris getting engaged to Becca and waiting until marriage? I don't. Though I'm not sure if Becca has said she's waiting or that she just hasn't found the right person yet. I just can't imagine that, knowing what we know about Chris.

My female best friend in undergrad was a virgin when she married at 27 or 28 years old. Her husband, who was her best friend for many years before she finally agreed to date him, was a complete manwhore before she agreed to date him. I mean a different girl every night every week, who was a real favorite among the numerous sorority girls at Texas. They were together for almost five years before they married as her very conservative father would not give permission until she finished her PhD. So yes, for love this reformed manwhore went without sex for five years. For the right woman, the right man will give it up for a while.

Becca saved this horrible season for me. She and Kaitlyn were the breath of fresh air in a season of tragedy trumping for roses, a lead who did what ever TPTB told him and the second spoiled F1 in a two seasons who just know they are in love with the lead without bothering to actually get to know the lead for who they really were.

If Becca is happy and she certainly seems to be, then I am happy how ever it ends.

If Chris chose Whitney, I think it will be a lot like Brad making up things to Emily. So that sounds like tons of fun to me.

Bachelor 19 - Becca Tilly #3

^ I liked it too. He even took it further by tweeting these as well:

Dez Duron @DezDuron
Same girls judging her for being a virgin are the same girls posting relentlessly against sl** shaming #DoubleStandard #ChoicesAreChoices

Dez Duron @DezDuron
This is virginity! Not an STD! Girls always saying it shouldn't matter to a guy how many people a girls been with...unless she's a virgin?!

Not only is he super, super attractive

but Dez seems really protective, sweet and has a great head on his shoulders.