The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn Bristowe - #7 - Media - Tweets - IG - *Sleuthing - Spoilers* - Discussion

Iam4UGA wrote:

happydays wrote:

Alanna wrote:The sex is not the point!! The point is that she cannot deal with the consequences of the sex! If she did nothing wrong, why is she already crying about it and regretting it? Just lack of thought and judgement all around. She's 30 but I would bet she's 15 with how she's acting.

Maybe because she has feelings for two guys? And now one of them is all of a sudden talking about leaving..

The whole concept of this show is so inappropriate on so many levels, and so it's really vague and blurred as to where the line needs to be drawn. Personally, I find it more disrespectful and immature for leads to sleep with multiple people days before being engaged in the FS, and so many leads do that! and we haven't seen many of them showing regret about that...

I see someone being really human and raw on our tv screens, and personally that is actually what I'm finding refreshing ..

EDIT: one more thing to add: the above is the reason that I actually think from what we have seen so far (may change in the next couple of weeks...), kaitlyn has been the best bachelorette

I know and that's kind of the age old debate with the this show.  You are dating multiple people, but the rules of the real world technically don't apply.  You are supposed to have as real a relationship as you can with each person and forget that you are dating multiple people, right?  So you are criticized for treating it like they are all individual relationships, but then if you are careful and think of feeling of others, then that is wrong too.

So I can see both sides I guess.  

So, if you are gonna  have sex, then either own it and say yes I did it and it is what it is, or think of the fall out BEFORE you do anything?

happydays wrote:

Iam4UGA wrote:

happydays wrote:

Maybe because she has feelings for two guys? And now one of them is all of a sudden talking about leaving..

The whole concept of this show is so inappropriate on so many levels, and so it's really vague and blurred as to where the line needs to be drawn. Personally, I find it more disrespectful and immature for leads to sleep with multiple people days before being engaged in the FS, and so many leads do that! and we haven't seen many of them showing regret about that...

I see someone being really human and raw on our tv screens, and personally that is actually what I'm finding refreshing ..

EDIT: one more thing to add: the above is the reason that I actually think from what we have seen so far (may change in the next couple of weeks...), kaitlyn has been the best bachelorette

I know and that's kind of the age old debate with the this show.  You are dating multiple people, but the rules of the real world technically don't apply.  You are supposed to have as real a relationship as you can with each person and forget that you are dating multiple people, right?  So you are criticized for treating it like they are all individual relationships, but then if you are careful and think of feeling of others, then that is wrong too.

So I can see both sides I guess.  

So, if you are gonna  have sex, then either own it and say yes I did it and it is what it is, or think of the fall out BEFORE you do anything?

I hear what you are saying Iam4UGA. To be in K's shoes though, where she has long days of filming, is probably completely emotionally drained at this point, has all these feelings with different guys, guys are being confrontational and questioning her, and the stakes are high at the end as she is looking for a husband, I'd imagine it to be very easy to make a mistake, and quite confusing when it comes to treating each relationship separate and sorting through what is the correct and incorrect action to take to advance each relationship and not harm others. K has probably had the worst drama out of all the bachelorettes even before this episode, and it definitely seems like quite an emotionally demanding job

Alanna wrote:I don't know what's really going on in Shawn and Kait's relationship but she snapped a lot of her trip this morning and she appears to be her normal, happy Kait. So I think that at least so far this morning, no angry breakup texts yet since she cried when there was any conflict with them at all before she even chose him. I'd imagine she'd be really upset if things were on the verge of disaster bad now that he's her fiancé.