Married At First Sight - Season 1 - General Discussion - **Spoilers**

theKeptGrits wrote:

Lovedaddio wrote:

theKeptGrits wrote:If you look at the twitter feeds from overnight, Jamie is getting hammered for her attitude towards Doug.
I have been completely over her since the attack on Doug went over the top.
She needs a therapist not a husband or more time on tv.

Jamie should get hammered. The guy has had the patience of Job, catered to her, given her time to adjust and she tells him..."I'm not sure I could ever fall in love with you"??? Jamie seriously needs therapy to deal with her issues otherwise she's gonna go thru the same mess with every guy she dates.

It tore my heart out when she admitted that she had not done anything romantic for Doug. She called him selfish which is the pot calling the kettle black. This has all been about HER. We never have really had a chance to get to know Doug, accept for his comedy channel on youtube & other social media.

I'm sorry, I had a rough childhood too, but does that mean that I carry that b.s. baggage everywhere I go? NO!! I dealt with it, made changes, accepted myself and married a GOOD man who was / is opposite of the abusive louse of a father I had. It pisses me off when I see her playing the victim card over and over. The only thing she is a victim of is herself and her need for fame. I actually tweeted her and told her to use the therapists for MAFS to fix herself so she would be deserving of Doug. That's how much I'm over her.

I love this post. I am not watching this show, but I am so tired of people blaming the way they grew up and then choosing to go on tv and ask us to care. I hated it with AshLee on Sean's season and now BiP, Clare and her issues on JPG's season and BiP, and even the crap with Andi and Josh being just like all her exes . Plenty of people have bad lives, they get counseling and move on. Has Jamie mentioned getting counseling to deal with her issues, it isn't anyone elses responsibility to make us better it is our own. I was going to watch this season of this show later on netflicks, but maybe I should skip, I wanted to smack Andi everytime she brought up her issues with Josh, I think I might spend most of my time wanting to smack Jamie.

Different perspective-At least Jamie is being honest with her feelings, not giving Doug "hope" that she is in love with him. They met only a month ago! She's come a LONG way since that first day with Doug, she was not into him at all, didn't even want him touching her and then slowly she started opening up and giving more of herself-yes due to Doug's patience, personality and willingness to go more slow. She opened up about her past and that was hard for her and what happens when she confronts Doug about smoking, he lies-something she's totally against, can't blame her...she barely knows this guy she's living with and he breaks that trust! My walls would be going back up too! If you don't have trust in a relationship what kind of relationship do you have, you'll always wonder what he's lying about next...and especially with Jamie and the past she's had. Looks like she forgave him...and I'm sure as she's watching the show back she's cringed a bit at some of the things she said to him and hope she'll be more 'giving' and 'loving' in their relationship if they decided to give the marriage a shot or it won't be lasting long.

I see Cortney & Jason making it, they seem perfect for each other.

Monet & Vaughn, no way do I see that relationship working out. It's all about him and what he wants and needs (although he won't admit that).

Lost17 wrote:Different perspective-At least Jamie is being honest with her feelings, not giving Doug "hope" that she is in love with him. They met only a month ago! She's come a LONG way since that first day with Doug, she was not into him at all, didn't even want him touching her and then slowly she started opening up and giving more of herself-yes due to Doug's patience, personality and willingness to go more slow. She opened up about her past and that was hard for her and what happens when she confronts Doug about smoking, he lies-something she's totally against, can't blame her...she barely knows this guy she's living with and he breaks that trust! My walls would be going back up too! If you don't have trust in a relationship what kind of relationship do you have, you'll always wonder what he's lying about next...and especially with Jamie and the past she's had. Looks like she forgave him...and I'm sure as she's watching the show back she's cringed a bit at some of the things she said to him and hope she'll be more 'giving' and 'loving' in their relationship if they decided to give the marriage a shot or it won't be lasting long.

I see Cortney & Jason making it, they seem perfect for each other.

Monet & Vaughn, no way do I see that relationship working out. It's all about him and what he wants and needs (although he won't admit that).

You could say the same thing about Jamie. It's all about her and what she wants, (although she won't admit it). No one is unsympathetic to her difficult upbringing, but if you have issues rooted that deep and for that long, then you really don't need to be in a relationship. If she has trust issues, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Why say you forgive someone then constantly bring it up time and time again? Ok Doug lied about smoking, she was hurt by that, he apologized, she accepted it, now both parties MUST move on. If she's incapable of doing that then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. I guess the point I'm trying to make is.....FIX YOURSELF FIRST.

Lovedaddio wrote:

Lost17 wrote:Different perspective-At least Jamie is being honest with her feelings, not giving Doug "hope" that she is in love with him. They met only a month ago! She's come a LONG way since that first day with Doug, she was not into him at all, didn't even want him touching her and then slowly she started opening up and giving more of herself-yes due to Doug's patience, personality and willingness to go more slow. She opened up about her past and that was hard for her and what happens when she confronts Doug about smoking, he lies-something she's totally against, can't blame her...she barely knows this guy she's living with and he breaks that trust! My walls would be going back up too! If you don't have trust in a relationship what kind of relationship do you have, you'll always wonder what he's lying about next...and especially with Jamie and the past she's had. Looks like she forgave him...and I'm sure as she's watching the show back she's cringed a bit at some of the things she said to him and hope she'll be more 'giving' and 'loving' in their relationship if they decided to give the marriage a shot or it won't be lasting long.

I see Cortney & Jason making it, they seem perfect for each other.

Monet & Vaughn, no way do I see that relationship working out. It's all about him and what he wants and needs (although he won't admit that).

You could say the same thing about Jamie. It's all about her and what she wants, (although she won't admit it). No one is unsympathetic to her difficult upbringing, but if you have issues rooted that deep and for that long, then you really don't need to be in a relationship. If she has trust issues, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Why say you forgive someone then constantly bring it up time and time again? Ok Doug lied about smoking, she was hurt by that, he apologized, she accepted it, now both parties MUST move on. If she's incapable of doing that then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. I guess the point I'm trying to make is.....FIX YOURSELF FIRST.  

Well, if everyone who has "issues" and needs to work on themselves avoided relationships, there'd be many fewer relationships.  Dysfunction is all around.

I'm on the apparently very short "give Jamie a break" train.  There really is no time table for how quickly somebody falls in love, and despite this show stipulating 5 weeks, Jamie is being honest with both herself and Doug in that she isn't there yet, and doesn't know if she will be there within the allotted time frame.  I'm sure she hoped she would be when she signed on to this, and of course technically, she can continue to stay married even if she's still not in love but is at least optimistic that it will/could happen.  I think she's doing her best, and if it wasn't good enough for Doug, or if he didn't feel she was worth it, he would have emotionally checked out long ago.  Although they're married, the dynamic is no different than a dating situation where one party is more invested, or moves quicker emotionally, than the other, sometimes because of baggage, and sometimes for other reasons.  I do wonder if Jamie had been physically into Doug from the get go and the couple had started having sex by now whether it would have changed things for her.  Although I suppose if she had gone ahead and started sleeping with him even though she wasn't in love with him, and then ended it, she would have gotten criticized for that as well.

I guess I just can't hate on the girl for not falling in love with Doug fast enough to suit the fans.

ironcat wrote:

Lovedaddio wrote:

Lost17 wrote:Different perspective-At least Jamie is being honest with her feelings, not giving Doug "hope" that she is in love with him. They met only a month ago! She's come a LONG way since that first day with Doug, she was not into him at all, didn't even want him touching her and then slowly she started opening up and giving more of herself-yes due to Doug's patience, personality and willingness to go more slow. She opened up about her past and that was hard for her and what happens when she confronts Doug about smoking, he lies-something she's totally against, can't blame her...she barely knows this guy she's living with and he breaks that trust! My walls would be going back up too! If you don't have trust in a relationship what kind of relationship do you have, you'll always wonder what he's lying about next...and especially with Jamie and the past she's had. Looks like she forgave him...and I'm sure as she's watching the show back she's cringed a bit at some of the things she said to him and hope she'll be more 'giving' and 'loving' in their relationship if they decided to give the marriage a shot or it won't be lasting long.

I see Cortney & Jason making it, they seem perfect for each other.

Monet & Vaughn, no way do I see that relationship working out. It's all about him and what he wants and needs (although he won't admit that).

You could say the same thing about Jamie. It's all about her and what she wants, (although she won't admit it). No one is unsympathetic to her difficult upbringing, but if you have issues rooted that deep and for that long, then you really don't need to be in a relationship. If she has trust issues, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Why say you forgive someone then constantly bring it up time and time again? Ok Doug lied about smoking, she was hurt by that, he apologized, she accepted it, now both parties MUST move on. If she's incapable of doing that then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. I guess the point I'm trying to make is.....FIX YOURSELF FIRST.  

Well, if everyone who has "issues" and needs to work on themselves avoided relationships, there'd be many fewer relationships.  Dysfunction is all around.

I'm on the apparently very short "give Jamie a break" train.  There really is no time table for how quickly somebody falls in love, and despite this show stipulating 5 weeks, Jamie is being honest with both herself and Doug in that she isn't there yet, and doesn't know if she will be there within the allotted time frame.  I'm sure she hoped she would be when she signed on to this, and of course technically, she can continue to stay married even if she's still not in love but is at least optimistic that it will/could happen.  I think she's doing her best, and if it wasn't good enough for Doug, or if he didn't feel she was worth it, he would have emotionally checked out long ago.  Although they're married, the dynamic is no different than a dating situation where one party is more invested, or moves quicker emotionally, than the other, sometimes because of baggage, and sometimes for other reasons.  I do wonder if Jamie had been physically into Doug from the get go and the couple had started having sex by now whether it would have changed things for her.  Although I suppose if she had gone ahead and started sleeping with him even though she wasn't in love with him, and then ended it, she would have gotten criticized for that as well.

I guess I just can't hate on the girl for not falling in love with Doug fast enough to suit the fans.

I am not hating on her, I am using my own experiences as a baseline as I watch her. I just lost patience with the whole aspect of her holding on to old baggage for sooo long. This should have been completely addressed before entering into a committed relationship where issues could arise..i.e. From my own experiences I understand having trust issues, however I know myself well because I worked HARD to break the cycle I was in. Jamie could have that too. If she just took the time to stop running away, walked away from being in the spotlight, turned around & faced the fact that she has not really put the past behind her, then sought out someone to give her in depth help / tools....she would no longer attract the kind of guys who have let her down.  I did it and she could to if she really wanted to be able to move forward and fully appreciate a healthy, happy relationship.

Here's another thought. As she moves forward in the future, what will folks remember about her? Either as someone they should pity and walk around on eggshells. Or as the selfish gal who treated a loving, patient man harshly. Neither one is a positive

Well, if "the end justifies the means", and Jamie and Doug are still together and happy now, I imagine Doug is pretty pleased that Jamie didn't decide to walk away from being in the spotlight and work on herself first.

ironcat wrote:Well, if "the end justifies the means", and Jamie and Doug are still together and happy now, I imagine Doug is pretty pleased that Jamie didn't decide to walk away from being in the spotlight and work on herself first.

Very true. But if she would have worked on herself first before she did this, it would be better for the both of them.

But it's all water under the bridge that's makes for interesting topics of discussion.

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the theme song for #MarriedAtFirstSight is very fitting-- 'it's all or nothing' next week. I will def not be dating @Kr0ss... #realtalk

Interesting tweet from earlier this morning Let's assume Jason wanted to divorce, but date Cortney to see where it went. As far as Cortney's concerned, that's not an option. I love this. She seems to have too much respect for herself to "beg" him to stay. Go big or go home. (stuckinsc, that was for you! ) Gosh, I like Courtney's spunk and attitude.

To me this is more confirmation that J&C are still married. No way is Jason being brought to NC on July 4th weekend if divorce was chosen...not that anyone on this board has been doubting this.

Somewhere I read that on the Danish version, all of the couples had ended up splitting up a year after the show.  So to put a total downer on it, even if they decide to stay together, they may still decide to divorce at some point in the near future.  It's only been six months since the start of filming. If I have hopes for anyone, it's Cortney and Jason.  They seem to have clicked immediately and she seems issue-free and willing to work hard to make her marriage work.

theKeptGrits wrote:

ironcat wrote:

Lovedaddio wrote:

You could say the same thing about Jamie. It's all about her and what she wants, (although she won't admit it). No one is unsympathetic to her difficult upbringing, but if you have issues rooted that deep and for that long, then you really don't need to be in a relationship. If she has trust issues, then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Why say you forgive someone then constantly bring it up time and time again? Ok Doug lied about smoking, she was hurt by that, he apologized, she accepted it, now both parties MUST move on. If she's incapable of doing that then she doesn't need to be in a relationship. I guess the point I'm trying to make is.....FIX YOURSELF FIRST.  

Well, if everyone who has "issues" and needs to work on themselves avoided relationships, there'd be many fewer relationships.  Dysfunction is all around.

I'm on the apparently very short "give Jamie a break" train.  There really is no time table for how quickly somebody falls in love, and despite this show stipulating 5 weeks, Jamie is being honest with both herself and Doug in that she isn't there yet, and doesn't know if she will be there within the allotted time frame.  I'm sure she hoped she would be when she signed on to this, and of course technically, she can continue to stay married even if she's still not in love but is at least optimistic that it will/could happen.  I think she's doing her best, and if it wasn't good enough for Doug, or if he didn't feel she was worth it, he would have emotionally checked out long ago.  Although they're married, the dynamic is no different than a dating situation where one party is more invested, or moves quicker emotionally, than the other, sometimes because of baggage, and sometimes for other reasons.  I do wonder if Jamie had been physically into Doug from the get go and the couple had started having sex by now whether it would have changed things for her.  Although I suppose if she had gone ahead and started sleeping with him even though she wasn't in love with him, and then ended it, she would have gotten criticized for that as well.

I guess I just can't hate on the girl for not falling in love with Doug fast enough to suit the fans.

I am not hating on her, I am using my own experiences as a baseline as I watch her. I just lost patience with the whole aspect of her holding on to old baggage for sooo long. This should have been completely addressed before entering into a committed relationship where issues could arise..i.e. From my own experiences I understand having trust issues, however I know myself well because I worked HARD to break the cycle I was in. Jamie could have that too. If she just took the time to stop running away, walked away from being in the spotlight, turned around & faced the fact that she has not really put the past behind her, then sought out someone to give her in depth help / tools....she would no longer attract the kind of guys who have let her down.  I did it and she could to if she really wanted to be able to move forward and fully appreciate a healthy, happy relationship.

Everyone goes through their own experience and grows/learns differently from it. Jamie's what 24-25? That's still young, I have parents in their 60s that still have major issues, not all can resolve their issues the way others can. Jamie's dealing with it, slowly but at least trying. Not everyone is going to like what she does or how she acts and that's fine. I certainly didn't care for her on TBP. It'll be interesting if she DOES fall in love with Doug through this process, time will tell.

theKeptGrits-I probably won't remember her much, but right now I like that she's fought to get out of the situation she was in, has a good job, nice place to live, etc and is determined to keep it that way. Once she 'falls in love' with the 'right guy' and lets those guards down I think we'll see a different/better side of her.

ironcat-agree with your posts!

I can't believe I am just now finding this site!!
I have been watching Married at First Sight from Day 1 and began my sleuthing there. And I can tell you 100% that at least two of the couples are still together.
If you go back on Jamie's twitter she thanked a fan for being a "Great secret keeper". Well, I went to that persons twitter account (who was private) and sent a request. She accepted and had posted (and deleted the next day) that she was so excited to see that her favorite "reality" couple are still together and saw them at the Atlantic City Boardwalk. She also tweeted "I"m a great secret keeper!" And then TWEETED that to Jamie and Jamie replied with "Yes you are". I wish I had a way to copy the screenshots I took on my phone but it DID happen and it was the first week of August!
Also, Jason and Cortney were in NC together over the 4th (as many of you have stated already.) One of her IG friends posted pictures of them and another couple posing and wearing red, white and blue hats.
My last bit of proof is a tad more personal and there is no way to deny this. My sister in law works with Jamie and as of earlier this week, Doug's picture is in Jamie's locker. BAM!