The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Episode 9 - Discussion - #2 *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

casjacknick wrote:

Lucas15 wrote:

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I made a post in another thread that suggested a way to follow this season is to "follow the feet" - see who is chasing Ben - and who Ben is chasing, and pointed out several things that Ben has done, spanning multiple episodes, where IMO he is chasing Lauren. And so in this clip is yet another example of this where Ben says to Lauren:

The last thing I want is for you to to like be holding all this in - like questions, concerns, feelings, emotions, whatever. I want to know what your fears are, where you stand, what you're scared of, what I've done wrong.

Ben - if you're listening - I have one word of advice. Never stop chasing. OK - 3 words.

Oh my god Lucas; I don't know if you're married. I know I am. But if I am ever a widow watch out. I'm coming for you. You are so good at reading into all of this but it's just so true that he should Never Stop Chasing. I am so glad they are going to show this conversation. Even if it casts doubts or whatever on who the final one is for some people. This is an important conversation to have. It's real for her. She's afraid of what he might have with someone else. He needs to know that. I hope it helps them in the long run to have a stronger relationship outside of this crazy show. She needs support and he's willing to provide it. She needs to tell him how she feels and she needs to feel safe doing so. Communication on this level is key. Cannot wait for this evening. How long does the east coast have to wait, less than four hours now?
JMHO

casjacknick wrote:Oh my god Lucas; I don't know if you're married. I know I am. But if I am ever a widow watch out. I'm coming for you. You are so good at reading into all of this but it's just so true that he should Never Stop Chasing. I am so glad they are going to show this conversation. Even if it casts doubts or whatever on who the final one is for some people. This is an important conversation to have. It's real for her. She's afraid of what he might have with someone else. He needs to know that. I hope it helps them in the long run to have a stronger relationship outside of this crazy show. She needs support and he's willing to provide it. She needs to tell him how she feels and she needs to feel safe doing so. Communication on this level is key. Cannot wait for this evening. How long does the east coast have to wait, less than four hours now?
JMHO

Lucas15 wrote:

casjacknick wrote:Oh my god Lucas; I don't know if you're married. I know I am. But if I am ever a widow watch out. I'm coming for you. You are so good at reading into all of this but it's just so true that he should Never Stop Chasing. I am so glad they are going to show this conversation. Even if it casts doubts or whatever on who the final one is for some people. This is an important conversation to have. It's real for her. She's afraid of what he might have with someone else. He needs to know that. I hope it helps them in the long run to have a stronger relationship outside of this crazy show. She needs support and he's willing to provide it. She needs to tell him how she feels and she needs to feel safe doing so. Communication on this level is key. Cannot wait for this evening. How long does the east coast have to wait, less than four hours now?
JMHO

:cutesmile!: I am married - for well over 30 years and happier today than ever. Probably because I never stopped chasing.

And as to the rest of your points they are all so true. Combine this with Sophie's monumental undertaking of recapping key things said on each of the episodes and one thing stands out to me. What they are doing is developing an emotional connection between them and if you have that emotional connection chemistry and biology will take care of the passion. Very nicely I might add.
JMHO

ForeverLove wrote:Lucas rocks! No doubt ! He's like the Charles Schwab of this board! When Lucas talks....we listen!