Re: Bachelor 19 - Becca Tilley - Fan Forum - Discussion

[julychild]

okay. lets talk about the article a bit..

I'm just wondering if there was a specific incident in your past or something that happened in your past that made you afraid of falling in love and/or getting hurt?

Becca Tilley: You know, one of the things I really learned about myself on the show was that I'm a very confident person, but in relationships, I think that's where my insecurity is. And in the last relationship I was in, it was very on and off. And so, every time it went off, I think another wall went up. I think that's what caused my hesitancy to open up and be vulnerable
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interesting about the 'walls'.. ($1 to my interesting jar   )
watching the finale, looking at BIB series and the much-discussed last Pinterest of her, she strikes me as a person who would hide her true feelings/emotions so that others wont be able to see her getting hurt/upset/sadz, despite her 'bleeding' inside.

anyone else with me?

I don't really think that she tried to hide her emotions, Mura. Personally, I feel that she was was resigned. She knew going into that RC that Chris was going to break up with her. Who knows, she may have cried all night and was all cried out by the next day. At times, one just has to accept the inevitable, and that's what I think happened with her. Calm acceptance...

Thanks JC. hmm makes sense too....borrowing Nick: Becca's self awareness is impeccable. One of her pin in Pinterest is about an introvert traits. I think she can identify herself with that description , which IA.

about FRC, she indeed mention that they both knew going to the FRC that they had to say goodbye. in her own words :
It was a sadness knowing that, I think going into that night, we had had our last talk knowing it was going to come to an end the next day. I was so stressed and I felt so hurt for him and hurt for me and hurt for the relationship. So, it wasn't fun watching it last night.

my heart break a little for her. . Giving me the dejavue of Reid-Jilly all over again. (Reid Ette version, not the BP version )

good to know that she is in a good place now. Since you are here, JC..any speculation on why she was still wearing the necklace post-show?. IMO she strikes me as the person who wouldnt hold grudges to anyone/any experience- ala Nick- so i could easily see it as a NBD for her as in she would cherish her 'journey' forever since it changed her. (Drink! )

No idea! Introverts can be very sentimental, at times.

[Kashathediva]

It's a beautiful necklace. It was a sweet birthday gesture. So why not wear it? I could see if there were hard feelings when it ended that maybe she would choose to put it away, but it does not seem like they ended things on a bad note.
I still have things old boyfriends have give me that I use/wear.

[alwaysvictoria]

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Okay, back to sweet Becca.

okay. lets talk about the article a bit..

I'm just wondering if there was a specific incident in your past or something that happened in your past that made you afraid of falling in love and/or getting hurt?

Becca Tilley: You know, one of the things I really learned about myself on the show was that I'm a very confident person, but in relationships, I think that's where my insecurity is. And in the last relationship I was in, it was very on and off. And so, every time it went off, I think another wall went up. I think that's what caused my hesitancy to open up and be vulnerable
Read more at http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/the-bachelor-runner-up-becca-tilley-interview-watching-finale-was-way-harder-than-i-thought-it-would-be-17610.php#kmtTjTLm4MX5BYy7.99

interesting about the 'walls'.. ($1 to my interesting jar   )
watching the finale, looking at BIB series and the much-discussed last Pinterest of her, she strikes me as a person who would hide her true feelings/emotions so that others wont be able to see her getting hurt/upset/sadz, despite her 'bleeding' inside.

anyone else with me?

I don't really think that she tried to hide her emotions, Mura. Personally, I feel that she was was resigned. She knew going into that RC that Chris was going to break up with her. Who knows, she may have cried all night and was all cried out by the next day. At times, one just has to accept the inevitable, and that's what I think happened with her. Calm acceptance...

I agree with all that is said here but I also keep going back and asking myself did finding out her Great Grandmother had just passed away play a part in what we saw at the end. Coiming from such a close family you know she had to have a difficult time, having to deal with this loss alone? I also wonder why it was never mentioned on the show, in past seasons we have seen it brought up? This are just my thoughts, questions and opinions.

[stuckinsc]

http://www.thestranger.com/blogs/slog/2015/03/12/21857700/the-bachelor-season-finale-chris-is-engaged-to-whitney-not-thrilled-about-it

That made me . Especially the screencaps of Chris's sister.

Someone should Adam that SC to Becca and if she gets sad she can look at that pic and realized she dodged a bullet.

[Litta123]

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I agree with all that is said here but I also keep going back and asking myself did finding out her Great Grandmother had just passed away play a part in what we saw at the end. Coiming from such a close family you know she had to have a difficult time, having to deal with this loss alone?  I also wonder why it was never mentioned on the show, in past seasons we have seen it brought up? This are just my thoughts, questions and opinions.

Along that same line of questioning, I wonder if Becca was allowed to talk to family regarding her GGM' death...or if that information was simply passed on to her by producers. If she was able to talk to her mom or sister(s), would she have been allowed to talk through where she was emotionally with Chris? Would they have been able to give her advice?

I can't imagine being in those circumstances and only having producers to talk to. Even though they may legitimately befriend you, their ultimate loyalty is to the show...I would think. It's actually commendable how firmly Becca hung onto her own convictions at that point. There had to be a lot of pressure...imo.

[zackzugen]

i love that thestranger blog...i just hope CS will somehow read it

[Guest]

^^**edited**

Okay, back to sweet Becca.

okay. lets talk about the article a bit..

I'm just wondering if there was a specific incident in your past or something that happened in your past that made you afraid of falling in love and/or getting hurt?

Becca Tilley: You know, one of the things I really learned about myself on the show was that I'm a very confident person, but in relationships, I think that's where my insecurity is. And in the last relationship I was in, it was very on and off. And so, every time it went off, I think another wall went up. I think that's what caused my hesitancy to open up and be vulnerable
Read more at http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/the-bachelor-runner-up-becca-tilley-interview-watching-finale-was-way-harder-than-i-thought-it-would-be-17610.php#kmtTjTLm4MX5BYy7.99

interesting about the 'walls'.. ($1 to my interesting jar   )
watching the finale, looking at BIB series and the much-discussed last Pinterest of her, she strikes me as a person who would hide her true feelings/emotions so that others wont be able to see her getting hurt/upset/sadz, despite her 'bleeding' inside.

anyone else with me?

I agree and I think that's one of the reasons why she posted that quote on pinterest. It was away from her twitter and IG which means less or no attention. She didn't know her fans on this board were doing research

IKR??? im standing by my opinion that The homegirl has multiple layers of personality. She is soft,nurturing, selfless, empathetical, deep, while still managed to be strong, self-aware and determined.

a truly rare gem indeed. im sure when the right guy come, she now knows what to do with her 'walls'.

[Guest]

good read. who knew- crying and kissing aside- Ashley I can write?

My girl @ashleyiaco getting things done in Cosmo. I could not be more proud of you ashley I!

http://t.co/k8PyIIFDhT

— Becca Tilley (@beccatilley5) March 12, 2015

[Guest]

A tweet from Laura, B's friend who nominated her on the show.   . Is she setting her up with this Sam guy?

Well, the good news is that I can publicly start my search for @beccatilley5's husband again. @SamHuntMusic we need to talk

— Laura Walton (@laurabwalt) March 10, 2015

[Mommyof2]

i love that thestranger blog...i just hope CS will somehow read it

Very funny, especially the face of the sister.   What is her name again?

[Mommyof2]

A tweet from Laura, B's friend who nominated her on the show.   . Is she setting her up with this Sam guy?

<blockquote class="twitter-tweet" lang="en"><p>Well, the good news is that I can publicly start my search for <a href="https://twitter.com/beccatilley5">@beccatilley5</a>'s husband again. <a href="https://twitter.com/SamHuntMusic">@SamHuntMusic</a> we need to talk</p>— Laura Walton (@laurabwalt) <a href="https://twitter.com/laurabwalt/status/575280955176308736">March 10, 2015</a></blockquote>
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Oooh, he would be dreamy!  Much better than Chris!!  

[Guest]

i love that thestranger blog...i just hope CS will somehow read it

Very funny, especially the face of the sister.    What is her name again?

Lori. actually Nick once met her in Chi and said she is awesome. Alas, i think it was really a lose-lose game for B. All the sistas alrady in wuv with Whit when B came. . What an ah-mazing wuv story...

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