Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

blueblues wrote:Drunk or not, no one should ever be blamed for what someone else does to them IMO.

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:

maniluh wrote:just saw the snap of lauren partying with some bach people on IG. imo, if lauren and ben breaks up, i can see her having a rebound hook up with chase.

I think Lauren and Chase would like that  

https://instagram.com/p/BQq523_F_ti/

Btw, bad boy Chase for drinking from Lauren's glass (though really Lace's)! A bit intentionally flirty he was being... Or something?

All IMO.

Kashathediva wrote:I also don't like putting the onus on women saying a guy will be romantic when the right woman comes along to inspire him. Like what?  No matter what muse comes along, I am not going to have certain traits. Sometimes it is what it is.  And maybe what would appear to be a lack of romanticism for one person is enough or too much for another.

Kashathediva wrote:

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:

maniluh wrote:just saw the snap of lauren partying with some bach people on IG. imo, if lauren and ben breaks up, i can see her having a rebound hook up with chase.

I think Lauren and Chase would like that  

https://instagram.com/p/BQq523_F_ti/

Btw, bad boy Chase for drinking from Lauren's glass (though really Lace's)! A bit intentionally flirty he was being... Or something?

All IMO.

Regarding this snap: You can clearly see Ben is there over Chase's right shoulder touching him. Then the camera pans at the end showing BOR DUHM. Both men are there in that snap.
Run the snap again and you will see this--Ben:

And here is BOR:


My screen caps from the snap.

AllAboutLove wrote:

Alanna wrote:

Kashathediva wrote:I also don't like putting the onus on women saying a guy will be romantic when the right woman comes along to inspire him. Like what?  No matter what muse comes along, I am not going to have certain traits. Sometimes it is what it is.  And maybe what would appear to be a lack of romanticism for one person is enough or too much for another.

IMO this isn't putting the onus on the woman but on the relationship. IMO all humans are capable of anything depending on their situation. Same flavor here. I suppose time will tell how Ben can be if/when there is another fiancée (maybe a real one this time ) in the future. All IMO of course.

Regarding the bolded: IMO, that is exactly a prime example of putting the onus on the woman since it is the women that are different in the example given and Ben is the common denominator.

ITA with Kasha that it is what it is. Some people are just not that romantically inclined and IMO, while it's nice to have those romantic gestures and whatnot, I think romanticism should not be a determinant for a healthy relationship. Is it nice to have it? Sure. But if romanticism is what indicates when a man is most into someone then I have to beg to differ with that since to me that is nothing but infatuation/romantic love and not real, day-to-day, get-through-life-together love that I have been truly privileged to experience myself with my soulmate and hubby.

So if I had to wish anything for Ben and Lauren, it would be that they have a love based on much more than romantic gestures for random strangers via SM and the kind of love that puts in the work in a way that works best for them. JMO

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:Imma go ahead and make the assumption that Lauren was NOT with Amanda last night... (Based on the link in Amanda's thread.) So where oh where is she?

Cila51290 wrote:

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:Imma go ahead and make the assumption that Lauren was NOT with Amanda last night... (Based on the link in Amanda's thread.) So where oh where is she?

She's getting her hair done per her IG story in LA.